You can change your partner's behavior with the Relational Model

 

The Relational Model simply says that what you do affects my decisions and what I do affects yours.

Even the most seriously damaged relationship can be repaired one change at a time

No matter how emotionally distant your relationship, the kind of problems you have, or the number of struggles you have been through in the past-- making any kind of change is guaranteed to create a change in your relationship. Just think how little changes your partner makes make you want him more or less. So, too, the things you do.

Lack of progress usually happen when our good and bad changes work against each other

Everything that we do or say to our partner either pulls us closer or pushes us further apart. Because we can have mixed feelings, it is easy to alternate between pushing and pulling. Partners can also alternate with each other. One pushes when the other pulls, and vice versa. The result is that our relationship stays exactly the same.

The Relational Model helps us to stop pulling away when our partner is pushing us away

Relating is something like playing catch.  If we don't throw the ball back, the game stops. There are many games, like the fighting game, the avoidance game, the blame game, the refusal to talk game, etc. When the game stops, our partner is often at a loss as to what to do. That creates a window for positive change. If he shouts at you, but you don't shout back or shrink away, you create a new situation. There are effective strategies for dealing with every behavior and every type of person. Some you can do on your own; for some you will require extra help.

Every person I have taught these strategies to has created a closer relationship.

Some used them to get a little closer, some to get a lot closer, and some to get very close, each according to his or her willingness to try new and more effective ways of relating.  Your husband, wife, or partner will benefit as much as you because he also wants a good relationship. No matter how a man or woman behaves, he doesn't want to have a bad relationship.

As you know, every person is different,

No two relationships are the same.  What worked with your previous relationship doesn't work with this one.  What helped you to connect with one person didn't help you to connect with another.   Together, we can use the Relational Model to make just the right changes for your situation.

Sometimes couples want to coach together and sometimes people want to start by themselves.  Only you can know which one is right for you.

Because coaching works in the best interest of your partner as well as yourself, husbands, wives, boyfriends, or girlfriends can join in the process at any time.  They never feel ganged up on, as can happen in counseling.

You can start easily, with one of my introductory packages.

I want you to be fully convinced of the power of coaching for making the changes you want and for getting what you want to have.  So, I have made three coaching packages available to you at a special discount. Today can be the last day you say, "I don't know what to do."